An article submitted by Yasmin Daniel.
On a Thursday night, I listened to Greg Holden’s ‘Boys In The Street’. The version I listened to was a cover by a YouTuber, who’d replaced the acoustic guitar bits with the piano instead. I sat silently, listening to the melancholy song, fixated on the words and the soft piano.When I first heard ‘Boys In The Streets’, I was so shocked, so awed by the simple beauty of the words that my eyes burned with tears. Holden is not gay, but he understands that some families look upon homosexuals as something ‘quite nasty’. It’s not fair to ostracise homosexuals simply for the reason that they ARE homosexuals. It’s not fair to alienate them because they don’t share the same gender interests. Honestly, it’s the twenty-first century. Is it that impossible to accept change?
Holden’s song has only four verses, but he manages to bring in the life of a gay son with a disapproving father. He shows how the boy is tormented by thoughts of worthlessness, wormed in his brain by his father. His self confidence is riddled with doubt and self-reproach when his father tells him he’s never going to make it far in life. When the father hears his son’s been kissing boys in the street, he tries to hush it up and change his son’s repulsive ways by undermining his confidence and self-esteem. But as the father’s life ticks away by the years, he accepts his son for whom he is and tells him to ‘keep kissing boys in the street when he’s gone.’
There are so many gays, lesbians, transgenders and bisexuals in the world who face criticism and alienation. Conventionally-minded people avert their eyes and hurriedly dismiss them as ‘not part of this society’. How many tears of quiet resignation have been shed simply because people don’t take you for who you are? They are still humans, they are still part of the world. Just because they don’t have interests in the same sexes that you do doesn’t make them repugnant. Why, then, do people still turn their noses up at homosexuals, bisexuals and transgenders? What is so wrong in a guy liking a guy, or a girl wanting to be a guy?
Those who do not outright eliminate the LGBTQ community as part of humanity view them with a sort of stupefied fascination. ‘He’s gay’, they whisper. ‘Let’s stand up for him. We’ll seem cool.’ Again, honestly?!
But there are some who accept homosexuals, who have no problems with bisexuals, and find no fault with transgenders. They do not need to stand up and fight for LGBTQ rights. The members of the community are not weak; they are perfectly capable of fighting for their own needs. We support. We understand. We accept. We try to change the minds of the conventional and narrow-minded. We ignore the restrictive would who still blindly lash out against them, because they are, as I like to put it, ‘a dying breed.’
If those who do not accept people for who they are, regardless of their gender, or their likes or interests, can find it in themselves to settle into understanding, that is enough. Nothing will change. Nothing is different. You only have to realise. Because the fault is not in your stars, it’s in your minds.